You know, I've sat back and read this thread, and a few others, and I feel that I have something that really needs to be said. Please don't take it as anything more than some constructive criticism that it is.
As someone who's only flown three campaigns, I have to say that I am a noob when it comes to these servers. But I have absolutely no intention of logging onto ATOK4. Why?
The player base.
Not that its bad that its small, or that I know that I'll get my head handed to me every time I go out. But simply the way that it behaves. My first campaign was Evil Dave's Pirate Campaign and it was a blast. It was good that that was the first one, because had it been the other two that I've been in, I would have probably just said screw all of you and stuck to single player OP.
You all may know each other enough to know that it is all in jest, and for most of you, I do believe it is in jest as well. But here's the crux of the problem. To expand the game at all for SFC4, we have to bring in new blood. And if the new blood gets anywhere near the treatment I got from a few, they'll just move on to another game. I certainly wasn't expecting anyone to hold my hand through a few PvP missions (Thank you to those that did!), but I was expecting some decency and decorum. There are people here who give it and more, but there are other people who wont give the time of day (which is fine, not everyone is sociable), or worse (This is not fine).
There's a certain amount of rivalry in all of these games, chest thumping and bragging is all a part of the game, and its expected. With a smaller player base there is less room for the arrogant arses. In a larger player base those players can be ignored because there are others to turn to. But if we have a base of 30 - 40, it is important to every player to put forward a good face.
Perception is everything, especially for new players, give them a good first impression, they'll play for a while. Give them a bad first impression, and they'll look for the next new game. I'm sure the problem with this is perception on my part, but understand that new players will have the same perception. The same first impression, and we will want it to be a good one, otherwise SFC4 will be nothing more than the couple hundred or so of us still here.
Thank you for the soap box, you can go back to your game now.