One of the problems with fleets is that very few pilots ever use them due to lack of experience. I have flown multiple ships many times in the past, but much much much less since coming to D2. In past campaigns prior to D2 (private campaigns) we were allowed either 6 or 9 ships per fleet, depending on campaign. In those I had to learn to fly 3 ships at a time as it took 3 pilots with 3 ships each to fly the 9 ship fleet vs another team's up to 9 ship fleet. THOSE were a blast.
Unfortunately here I have found even most veteran pilots dont have experience flying fleets, and I know that Newcommers will not have the experience. I would most likely fly multiple ships in a campaign designed for it, but not all the time. I know this next idea may seem like a headache, but not as much as one might think.
1- campaign with fleet actions available. Use CnC(someone may want to put actual term to words for newcommers, because I dont even know what they are, but understand it somewhat) controlling it to say a CC type and 2 smaller vanilas, or a Carrier-escort-vanila, or CA-Droner-vanila.
2- Those not wanting to fly with or VS, put the letters NO (example) after your name, and they stick to single ships only. If they are drafted by multiple ship guy, they leave map immediately, no penalty for it.
3- All other people put up with it if they are drafted when they have 1 ship and enemy has more.
This way those who want extra ships or willing to fly vs extra ships can, and those who detest or refuse (which is all of our right to do so) have it marked as NO(example).
I know guys will post shooting this down, but so far it seems the only suggestion put forward for all pilots.