And the players put in their time with participation as well, I see it as egalitarian and that all deserve a certain amount of respect and courtesy if we are to be the benefactories of their participation at any level.
Yes I do equate their weight, we are all human beings playing a game to have fun, we all do what we do for the sake of that fun.
And degrading the efforts of those that spend their free time creating the environments where you have your fun is a far greater offense than the defensive response of those that are the target. Thus your blame the victim mentality doesn't sit well with me.
But you have seen Admins blame payers for their server problems, think GW 2, I don't think Dizzy was an admin on that one
A rather apropos Freudian slip there in bold. I now see why you believe the admins owe something to the players. Let me correct you though, the admins do it for free.
You bring up the perfect example with GW2 though. I never saw any admin blame a player for their problems on GW2. I did however see directly how certain players in a attempt to coerce admins to tweaking the system to their teams advantage actually stooped to directly and indirectly stating that the admins had deliberately cheated to gain advantage for the team the admin happened to be playing on. I personally flamed said players, not for expressing their differing opinion on the server changes, but for stooping to such a low tactic as impugning the integrity of the admins involved in order to attempt to gain some small tactical advantage.
I did the exact same thing on SGO4 (that time defending as an admin the very same player I had flammed for being a player ingrate previously) when I saw ingrates attack and deride those admins for their efforts. I am not against expression of opinion, I am against negative expression of opinion to the very folks whom you should be thanking. I simply hold the efforts of the admins above the destructive criticism of a few vocal miscreants, whom I feel the game is often better without.
If you want to weight them equally, you won't be doing them, their positions or the betterment of the game any practical good, I'm-ok-your-ok nonsense aside.