Topic: So.... (Read 1611 times)

EE · « **on:** July 28, 2004, 06:43:58 am »

The girl I want is no longer attached, so I hear earlier today ( yesterday for some of you who dont work graveyard ). Her and her ex-bf ( god I love saying that ) broke it off after two years. I know, I know... Its too soon and I agree. At least 6 months until I attempt anything, hopefully she does not rebound in that time.

Ahhhh.. the dilemma.

Just plain old Punisher · « **Reply #1 on:** July 28, 2004, 07:21:37 am »

Your heart says no, but your hips cry proceed?

EE · « **Reply #2 on:** July 28, 2004, 07:54:10 am »

Naw. Its not about that. It never has been with anyone I have dated. Although that would be a nice extra, that has never been the first thing on my mind. I always have fun whenever I kick it with her, she says the same thing so, you know... it cant hurt to see how things go. Thats going to be some time in the future though. She needs time to sort her head out and decide what she wants to do with the whole situation. I figure, 4-6 months is more then enough time and then, when that time comes, if I dont feel right about the whole idea, then I will give more time.

I feel bad for her though. Although I would have sooner kicked the guys ass then kick it with him, I feel bad for her because she is a really bomb person, who, like me, is always willing to help others in any way possible. She doesnt deserve the sh*t she has gone through.

She is really mature for her age ( she turns 20 on Aug 19th ) and I think she can handle herself, she just needs time right now. The only problem is the age difference. I am 30 and she is soon to be 20. Her ex really treated her like sh*t, not physically but mentally. He would ignore her etc, how and why is beyond me, I mean hell man, look at her!

And she is cool as hell to boot!

* I had to do some editing, I just got off work ( yeah I know, its late isnt it ) and my mind was still stuck in work mode. PCA-1009547 1-A-1-D30 need 7 of them!

dragoon · « **Reply #3 on:** July 28, 2004, 09:40:53 am »

WOW

She looks like my ideal woman......There was an age difference between me and my ex. It was difficult because she leaves for University in September and she just turned 18. There was alot of stress because of it, and the age gap did create issues but I wouldn't change a thing.
I say, if you get a chance than go for it, things will work if you both want them to.
Good luck.

Bonk · « **Reply #4 on:** July 28, 2004, 10:47:51 am »

My advice (for what its worth):

Live for yourself, take orders from nobody, unless they will pay big or have a gun and you don't.

drb · « **Reply #5 on:** July 28, 2004, 12:25:12 pm »

Hoi EE,

(I'm married with child, please take with grain of salt)

Does she play StarFleet? If yes, do not wait the 4-6 months. Two weeks should do it, just to be polite. However, she is twenty years old, so be ready to move after 36 hours; life happens so quick at that age.
If she doesn't play SFC, maybe you could get two tickets for the next Club House Tour J'inn is doing as a first date idea. I understand that J'inn is a real softy when it comes to romance, an angle you could use should you need a discount.
If she survives the tour, you will know what to do; marry her. If she doesn't survive the tour, she will know what to do; devote herself to meditation, study, and mature into a capable, fine woman who starts a family with a man who has no idea what a Gorn is.

The groundskeeper at our building, also a published Zen Master, shared this set of fine words with my wife one sunny day, I hope the words provide a distraction for you when you find yourself "worked up" about your situation."You cannot have enough of the things you do not want."

Take care

drb

drb · « **Reply #6 on:** July 28, 2004, 12:57:59 pm »

Hoi Folks,

Quote from: Bonk on July 28, 2004, 10:47:51 am

My advice (for what its worth):

Live for yourself, take orders from nobody, unless they will pay big or have a gun and you don't.

Shouldn't there just be a peroid after nobody? In which case this might work, "Live life in such a way that every thought and deed is to the benefit of all." That way when the guns and money show up you need not submit to them.
hehe

Take care

drb

Abfalter · « **Reply #7 on:** July 28, 2004, 01:02:27 pm »

And, maybe, it might not be the very best idea to post a picture of the girl you are interested in forming a relationship to the Internet. (Unless, of course, you somehow had her consent...). Your call, you know the situation better than I, but in her place I think most girls would not be pleased.

Bonk · « **Reply #8 on:** July 28, 2004, 02:06:50 pm »

Quote from: drb on July 28, 2004, 12:57:59 pm

Hoi Folks,
Quote from: Bonk on July 28, 2004, 10:47:51 am
My advice (for what its worth):

Live for yourself, take orders from nobody, unless they will pay big or have a gun and you don't.

Shouldn't there just be a peroid after nobody? In which case this might work, "Live life in such a way that every thought and deed is to the benefit of all." That way when the guns and money show up you need not submit to them.
hehe

Take care

drb

Yeah, I considered breaking it into two sentences or using a semi-colon but I figured what the heck, commas all around!

If only we didn't have to submit to guns and money... sigh, but that's another discussion not for Ten Forward.

I agree with Abfalter. I'm not so sure the picture was a good idea (though clearly already posted elsewhere), but didn't say anything as I wasn't sure how.

Clark Kent · « **Reply #9 on:** July 28, 2004, 02:44:01 pm »

You know you wanna hit that
You know you wanna hit that hit that

In short, my advice is, don't set time limtis. Hang with her like you always do, be there for her, and try not to push. When she's ready you'll know- either you'll see it or she'll let you know herself, and then, rather than put the moves on her, let things develop naturally. That may agree better with both of you than trying to figure out a grace period.
She's pretyy cute, too bad she's not Asian...

The Postman · « **Reply #10 on:** July 28, 2004, 04:43:36 pm »

EE, do I remember you writing about this person in another thread a few months back? The boss's daughter if I recall?

EE · « **Reply #11 on:** July 28, 2004, 06:20:32 pm »

Ex-Bosses Daughter, you are correct. I got laid off from my job 9 days before my 30th birthday hehe.

Quote from: Abfalter on July 28, 2004, 01:02:27 pm

And, maybe, it might not be the very best idea to post a picture of the girl you are interested in forming a relationship to the Internet. (Unless, of course, you somehow had her consent...). Your call, you know the situation better than I, but in her place I think most girls would not be pleased.

Where do you think I got the picture from? The Internet. I had a choice of about 20 of them to choose from online, I think this one was the best of them all though all of them are good.

762_XC · « **Reply #12 on:** July 28, 2004, 07:36:17 pm »

Been there, done that!

Two words EE: BAD SCENARIO

Clark Kent · « **Reply #13 on:** July 28, 2004, 10:32:05 pm »

Quote from: EE on July 28, 2004, 06:20:32 pm

Where do you think I got the picture from? The Internet. I had a choice of about 20 of them to choose from online, I think this one was the best of them all though all of them are good.

Does this mean she has a <gasp> website? a PAID website? You go EE!!

EE · « **Reply #14 on:** July 29, 2004, 04:44:53 am »

Quote from: 762_XC on July 28, 2004, 07:36:17 pm

Been there, done that!

Two words EE: BAD SCENARIO

And what reasons do you give as to it being a bad scenario? The age difference isnt that great.. well yeah it is, she was 7 when I turned 18 heh. But other then that, we have a good amount in common. I am a bit worried about the age difference, who would not be. I am going on the chemistry thing, in the 4 or 5 months I have known her, no arguments and its only been good times. So far its been a positive friendship. My only fear is ruining that friendship and thats what I am totally willing to keep it at if I have to. The friendship is most important to me, the other stuff may or may not develop, if it doesnt, thats fine. If it does, thats better.

EE · « **Reply #15 on:** July 29, 2004, 04:55:53 am »

Quote from: Clark Kent on July 28, 2004, 10:32:05 pm

Quote from: EE on July 28, 2004, 06:20:32 pm
Where do you think I got the picture from? The Internet. I had a choice of about 20 of them to choose from online, I think this one was the best of them all though all of them are good.

Does this mean she has a <gasp> website? a PAID website? You go EE!!

yeah, she has her own website. Most of her photo's were taken by photographers but I prefer the more natural ones, like what she normally wears ( the pic I showed ).

I am supposed to go to the beach with her Saturday. That is going to be ultra draining. My work hours are 7pm to whenever we get done, 2am-3am right now and in september its going to be like 9-11am. If anything does happen, time is going to be a major issue. She works 8am-5pm, I go into work at 6-7pm, depending if I go in early. All we would have is her hour lunch, my 2 hours before work, my lunch at 9:30-10:30pm during the week. Ahhhh, but I am planning on something that may never happen. DONT DO THAT. hehe

Who knows.

I need a psychic

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