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AlienLXIX

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Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« on: April 14, 2004, 07:06:27 pm »
I thought some of you would want to know esp. you Hsta dear.

What a blow.  Personnally I think I would be a pure basket case but then I am not very strong . . .

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 Smoke inhalation may have killed comedian's parents

By by Pat Sherman
UNION-TRIBUNE STAFF WRITER
April 10, 2004
 
 
FALLBROOK ? An elderly couple ? the parents of entertainer Weird Al Yankovic ? were found dead in their rural one-story ranch house yesterday, possibly of smoke inhalation.

Family members initially found Nick and Mary Yankovic, 85 and 81, respectively, about 1 p.m. inside their home at 226 Foxfire Lane. The couple, married for 54 years, were the parents of Alfred Matthew Yankovic, known for his stage persona, Weird Al, and his musical parodies.

The entertainer, their only child, was scheduled to start a tour in Wisconsin yesterday. He and his agent could not be reached for comment yesterday.

The inside of the Foxfire Lane house was charred and there apparently had been a fire in the fireplace, said sheriff's Sgt. Conrad Grayson, with the bomb and arson unit. The couple appeared to have died of smoke inhalation, Grayson said.

Firefighters and sheriff's deputies were called on a report of smoke in the house. North County Fire paramedics said Nick Yankovic was in a chair in the living room and Mary Yankovic was on the floor in the bathroom.

The couple were well known in the neighborhood. Nick Yankovic was scrupulous about his daily walks. Mary Yankovic sometimes worked in her yard, but Alzheimer's disease kept her indoors most of the time, neighbors said.

Some of the many fan sites devoted to Weird Al Yankovic tell the story of his start in music. He credits his parents for inspiring him with the gift of an accordion at age 7. As a teenager, he wrote a song about his parents's car, "Belvedere Cruisin'."

The couple appeared in their son's videos and movies and on the Saturday morning television program "The Weird Al Show," which was canceled in 1998 after a year.

Nick Yankovic was awarded two Purple Hearts for his service in World War II, where he administered morphine and medicine to wounded soldiers, said Mary Yankovic's sisters, Dorothy Gatej and Lena Fuller.

The sisters live with their brother, Joe Vivald, in a home behind the Yankovics' house. They all have lived in the rural neighborhood for 30 years.

"They're not fancy people, just good people, religious," Fuller said. Neighbors said the couple would be missed.

"They were great people," said Noah Buehman, who lives with his parents across the street from the Yankovics.

"They were really nice. They were always looking out for us. If they saw our dog outside, they wouldn't call the pound," Noah said.

He recalled meeting Weird Al.

Noah's father, John Buehman, said Al Yankovic put his parents in his productions, sending a limousine to take them to the set. To them, he was always Alfred, never Weird Al, he said.

"It was obvious where Alfred got his sense of humor, from his dad," John Buehman said. "He was very proud of his son."

Every day around 6 a.m., Nick Yankovic would set off on his daily walk. He became interested in a construction project up the road, the Buehmans said, and the workers gave him his own yellow construction vest.

"Nick would get up and say, 'What a beautiful day. It's great to be alive,' " John Buehman said.

"And I'd always say, 'Nick, you're going to be alive for a long time.' "

Al Yankovic was born in Lynwood and grew up in Los Angeles. A high school valedictorian, he earned a degree in architecture at Cal Poly San Luis Obispo. It was there that the singing accordionist quietly launched his musical career in 1979 with "My Bologna," a musical parody of the hit song "My Sharona" by The Knack.

His subsequent hits included his satirical version of Michael Jackson's "Beat It," which he retooled as a food-happy ditty called "Eat It," and Madonna's "Like a Virgin," which in his hands became "Like a Surgeon."

Weird Al has won three Grammy Awards, the most recent in February for "Poodle Hat," Best Comedy Album.


Staff writers Elizabeth Fitzsimons and Shannon Tangonan and music critic George Varga contributed to this report.

ALSO:

 http://www.weirdal.com/home.htm

On April 9, my mom and dad, Nick and Mary Yankovic, passed away in their home in Fallbrook, California. It was the result of a terrible accident ? that morning they had started a fire in the fireplace with the flue closed, and were asphyxiated by carbon monoxide poisoning.

Suzanne called me that afternoon on the bus to give me the news, so that I would hear about it before the wire services picked it up.

Needless to say, I feel pretty much the way you would expect me to feel ? shocked and devastated beyond words. I loved my parents so much, and this all still seems like a horrible nightmare that I can?t wake up from.

I want to thank my family, friends and fans for the incredible outpouring of love and support that they?ve shown me. It?s wonderful to know that there are so many people around the world who truly loved my parents, and also nice to know that I am not alone in my grief.

I take some small measure of comfort in knowing that they died peacefully, and that they never had to suffer through the pain and loneliness of living without each other. I'm also grateful that they both lived long enough to see me happily married to Suzanne, and particularly happy that they got to meet our beautiful baby daughter Nina. She filled their lives with so much joy this last year. Nina may be too young to remember playing with her grandparents when she gets older, but don?t worry, we?ll have some great videotape to show her.

Many people have wondered what?s going to happen with the tour. I briefly considered canceling some shows, but I ultimately decided that it would be better for me personally to continue working. Plus, I?ve heard from so many people over the years that my music has cheered them up in times of tragedy? well, I thought maybe my music would help me too.

So far, it has. Going up on stage in front of thousands of supportive fans is a cathartic and somewhat therapeutic experience for me right now. I don?t know if I can say that the concerts really take my mind off of the tragedy, but at least they give me a break from sobbing all the time.

Anyway, I have decided not to cancel any shows ? the tour will continue as planned. However, I have decided to put a moratorium on all interviews and meet-and-greets for the time being ? I just feel like I need some time alone right now.

The funeral will be a very small, intimate service with only the immediate family attending, so please, I ask that you respect our privacy. Just knowing that your thoughts are with us at this time is more than enough, but if you care to contribute anything, in lieu of flowers, Suzanne and I suggest a donation to the Natural Resources Defense Council ( click here ) in my parents? name.

One thing I would like to ask everybody to do, though? please, go out and get carbon monoxide detectors for yourself and your loved ones. If my parents had had one in their home, there?s a very good chance that they would still be with us today.

In fairness to the memory of my mother, I should point out some errors that appeared in the press. Although she was starting to have a problem with short-term memory loss (she was taking medication for it), my mother was never diagnosed with Alzheimer?s.

As long as I?m pointing out errors that the press has made, it was my Aunt Dot who found my parents when she was bringing them lunch that day, as she routinely did (and not a group of relatives concerned that they ?hadn?t heard from them in a while? ? the family was close and caring and saw each other several times a day). Also, my aunts and uncles all live in separate houses (not together, as some articles implied), and for what it?s worth, I am not represented by the William Morris Agency either.

I don?t know how much else I can say about my parents that I haven?t already said in interviews over the years. Although I always found it a little uncomfortable, my dad talked a lot about death. He mentioned a few times that he was planning to go on a diet so that his ?casket would be easier to carry.? I guess that?s where I got my sick sense of humor from. And he was always talking about how much he was looking forward to seeing his old army buddies again (in the next life). I sure hope they?re having a great reunion right now.

As unthinkable as this tragedy is to me, I just know that my mom and dad were very much at peace with the world and with their lives. And I guess I can take a small amount of comfort in that too.

Thank you all again for your overwhelming kindness and support. It means more to me than you can ever know.

Love,
Al
   

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Re: Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« Reply #1 on: April 16, 2004, 08:05:51 pm »
Thanks for posting that, I hadn't heard about it.  As much as it is sad, it is also good to know ...

They lived a long life.

They died painlessly (based on what I know of CO poisoning).

They died with each other, together, happy, at home, and never lonely.


When the time comes, I hope I am as fortunate.

Towelie

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Re: Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« Reply #2 on: April 18, 2004, 07:20:36 pm »
Quote:

Thanks for posting that, I hadn't heard about it.  As much as it is sad, it is also good to know ...

They lived a long life.

They died painlessly (based on what I know of CO poisoning).

They died with each other, together, happy, at home, and never lonely.


When the time comes, I hope I am as fortunate.  




  Nice way of putting it. My wife and I would rather go together (assuming we're old and child(ren) grown up and out of house, and stable enough to handle it.


   

AlienLXIX

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Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« Reply #3 on: April 14, 2004, 07:06:27 pm »
I thought some of you would want to know esp. you Hsta dear.

What a blow.  Personnally I think I would be a pure basket case but then I am not very strong . . .

*****************************************

 Smoke inhalation may have killed comedian's parents

By by Pat Sherman
UNION-TRIBUNE STAFF WRITER
April 10, 2004
 
 
FALLBROOK ? An elderly couple ? the parents of entertainer Weird Al Yankovic ? were found dead in their rural one-story ranch house yesterday, possibly of smoke inhalation.

Family members initially found Nick and Mary Yankovic, 85 and 81, respectively, about 1 p.m. inside their home at 226 Foxfire Lane. The couple, married for 54 years, were the parents of Alfred Matthew Yankovic, known for his stage persona, Weird Al, and his musical parodies.

The entertainer, their only child, was scheduled to start a tour in Wisconsin yesterday. He and his agent could not be reached for comment yesterday.

The inside of the Foxfire Lane house was charred and there apparently had been a fire in the fireplace, said sheriff's Sgt. Conrad Grayson, with the bomb and arson unit. The couple appeared to have died of smoke inhalation, Grayson said.

Firefighters and sheriff's deputies were called on a report of smoke in the house. North County Fire paramedics said Nick Yankovic was in a chair in the living room and Mary Yankovic was on the floor in the bathroom.

The couple were well known in the neighborhood. Nick Yankovic was scrupulous about his daily walks. Mary Yankovic sometimes worked in her yard, but Alzheimer's disease kept her indoors most of the time, neighbors said.

Some of the many fan sites devoted to Weird Al Yankovic tell the story of his start in music. He credits his parents for inspiring him with the gift of an accordion at age 7. As a teenager, he wrote a song about his parents's car, "Belvedere Cruisin'."

The couple appeared in their son's videos and movies and on the Saturday morning television program "The Weird Al Show," which was canceled in 1998 after a year.

Nick Yankovic was awarded two Purple Hearts for his service in World War II, where he administered morphine and medicine to wounded soldiers, said Mary Yankovic's sisters, Dorothy Gatej and Lena Fuller.

The sisters live with their brother, Joe Vivald, in a home behind the Yankovics' house. They all have lived in the rural neighborhood for 30 years.

"They're not fancy people, just good people, religious," Fuller said. Neighbors said the couple would be missed.

"They were great people," said Noah Buehman, who lives with his parents across the street from the Yankovics.

"They were really nice. They were always looking out for us. If they saw our dog outside, they wouldn't call the pound," Noah said.

He recalled meeting Weird Al.

Noah's father, John Buehman, said Al Yankovic put his parents in his productions, sending a limousine to take them to the set. To them, he was always Alfred, never Weird Al, he said.

"It was obvious where Alfred got his sense of humor, from his dad," John Buehman said. "He was very proud of his son."

Every day around 6 a.m., Nick Yankovic would set off on his daily walk. He became interested in a construction project up the road, the Buehmans said, and the workers gave him his own yellow construction vest.

"Nick would get up and say, 'What a beautiful day. It's great to be alive,' " John Buehman said.

"And I'd always say, 'Nick, you're going to be alive for a long time.' "

Al Yankovic was born in Lynwood and grew up in Los Angeles. A high school valedictorian, he earned a degree in architecture at Cal Poly San Luis Obispo. It was there that the singing accordionist quietly launched his musical career in 1979 with "My Bologna," a musical parody of the hit song "My Sharona" by The Knack.

His subsequent hits included his satirical version of Michael Jackson's "Beat It," which he retooled as a food-happy ditty called "Eat It," and Madonna's "Like a Virgin," which in his hands became "Like a Surgeon."

Weird Al has won three Grammy Awards, the most recent in February for "Poodle Hat," Best Comedy Album.


Staff writers Elizabeth Fitzsimons and Shannon Tangonan and music critic George Varga contributed to this report.

ALSO:

 http://www.weirdal.com/home.htm

On April 9, my mom and dad, Nick and Mary Yankovic, passed away in their home in Fallbrook, California. It was the result of a terrible accident ? that morning they had started a fire in the fireplace with the flue closed, and were asphyxiated by carbon monoxide poisoning.

Suzanne called me that afternoon on the bus to give me the news, so that I would hear about it before the wire services picked it up.

Needless to say, I feel pretty much the way you would expect me to feel ? shocked and devastated beyond words. I loved my parents so much, and this all still seems like a horrible nightmare that I can?t wake up from.

I want to thank my family, friends and fans for the incredible outpouring of love and support that they?ve shown me. It?s wonderful to know that there are so many people around the world who truly loved my parents, and also nice to know that I am not alone in my grief.

I take some small measure of comfort in knowing that they died peacefully, and that they never had to suffer through the pain and loneliness of living without each other. I'm also grateful that they both lived long enough to see me happily married to Suzanne, and particularly happy that they got to meet our beautiful baby daughter Nina. She filled their lives with so much joy this last year. Nina may be too young to remember playing with her grandparents when she gets older, but don?t worry, we?ll have some great videotape to show her.

Many people have wondered what?s going to happen with the tour. I briefly considered canceling some shows, but I ultimately decided that it would be better for me personally to continue working. Plus, I?ve heard from so many people over the years that my music has cheered them up in times of tragedy? well, I thought maybe my music would help me too.

So far, it has. Going up on stage in front of thousands of supportive fans is a cathartic and somewhat therapeutic experience for me right now. I don?t know if I can say that the concerts really take my mind off of the tragedy, but at least they give me a break from sobbing all the time.

Anyway, I have decided not to cancel any shows ? the tour will continue as planned. However, I have decided to put a moratorium on all interviews and meet-and-greets for the time being ? I just feel like I need some time alone right now.

The funeral will be a very small, intimate service with only the immediate family attending, so please, I ask that you respect our privacy. Just knowing that your thoughts are with us at this time is more than enough, but if you care to contribute anything, in lieu of flowers, Suzanne and I suggest a donation to the Natural Resources Defense Council ( click here ) in my parents? name.

One thing I would like to ask everybody to do, though? please, go out and get carbon monoxide detectors for yourself and your loved ones. If my parents had had one in their home, there?s a very good chance that they would still be with us today.

In fairness to the memory of my mother, I should point out some errors that appeared in the press. Although she was starting to have a problem with short-term memory loss (she was taking medication for it), my mother was never diagnosed with Alzheimer?s.

As long as I?m pointing out errors that the press has made, it was my Aunt Dot who found my parents when she was bringing them lunch that day, as she routinely did (and not a group of relatives concerned that they ?hadn?t heard from them in a while? ? the family was close and caring and saw each other several times a day). Also, my aunts and uncles all live in separate houses (not together, as some articles implied), and for what it?s worth, I am not represented by the William Morris Agency either.

I don?t know how much else I can say about my parents that I haven?t already said in interviews over the years. Although I always found it a little uncomfortable, my dad talked a lot about death. He mentioned a few times that he was planning to go on a diet so that his ?casket would be easier to carry.? I guess that?s where I got my sick sense of humor from. And he was always talking about how much he was looking forward to seeing his old army buddies again (in the next life). I sure hope they?re having a great reunion right now.

As unthinkable as this tragedy is to me, I just know that my mom and dad were very much at peace with the world and with their lives. And I guess I can take a small amount of comfort in that too.

Thank you all again for your overwhelming kindness and support. It means more to me than you can ever know.

Love,
Al
   

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Re: Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« Reply #4 on: April 16, 2004, 08:05:51 pm »
Thanks for posting that, I hadn't heard about it.  As much as it is sad, it is also good to know ...

They lived a long life.

They died painlessly (based on what I know of CO poisoning).

They died with each other, together, happy, at home, and never lonely.


When the time comes, I hope I am as fortunate.

Towelie

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Re: Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« Reply #5 on: April 18, 2004, 07:20:36 pm »
Quote:

Thanks for posting that, I hadn't heard about it.  As much as it is sad, it is also good to know ...

They lived a long life.

They died painlessly (based on what I know of CO poisoning).

They died with each other, together, happy, at home, and never lonely.


When the time comes, I hope I am as fortunate.  




  Nice way of putting it. My wife and I would rather go together (assuming we're old and child(ren) grown up and out of house, and stable enough to handle it.


   

AlienLXIX

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Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« Reply #6 on: April 14, 2004, 07:06:27 pm »
I thought some of you would want to know esp. you Hsta dear.

What a blow.  Personnally I think I would be a pure basket case but then I am not very strong . . .

*****************************************

 Smoke inhalation may have killed comedian's parents

By by Pat Sherman
UNION-TRIBUNE STAFF WRITER
April 10, 2004
 
 
FALLBROOK ? An elderly couple ? the parents of entertainer Weird Al Yankovic ? were found dead in their rural one-story ranch house yesterday, possibly of smoke inhalation.

Family members initially found Nick and Mary Yankovic, 85 and 81, respectively, about 1 p.m. inside their home at 226 Foxfire Lane. The couple, married for 54 years, were the parents of Alfred Matthew Yankovic, known for his stage persona, Weird Al, and his musical parodies.

The entertainer, their only child, was scheduled to start a tour in Wisconsin yesterday. He and his agent could not be reached for comment yesterday.

The inside of the Foxfire Lane house was charred and there apparently had been a fire in the fireplace, said sheriff's Sgt. Conrad Grayson, with the bomb and arson unit. The couple appeared to have died of smoke inhalation, Grayson said.

Firefighters and sheriff's deputies were called on a report of smoke in the house. North County Fire paramedics said Nick Yankovic was in a chair in the living room and Mary Yankovic was on the floor in the bathroom.

The couple were well known in the neighborhood. Nick Yankovic was scrupulous about his daily walks. Mary Yankovic sometimes worked in her yard, but Alzheimer's disease kept her indoors most of the time, neighbors said.

Some of the many fan sites devoted to Weird Al Yankovic tell the story of his start in music. He credits his parents for inspiring him with the gift of an accordion at age 7. As a teenager, he wrote a song about his parents's car, "Belvedere Cruisin'."

The couple appeared in their son's videos and movies and on the Saturday morning television program "The Weird Al Show," which was canceled in 1998 after a year.

Nick Yankovic was awarded two Purple Hearts for his service in World War II, where he administered morphine and medicine to wounded soldiers, said Mary Yankovic's sisters, Dorothy Gatej and Lena Fuller.

The sisters live with their brother, Joe Vivald, in a home behind the Yankovics' house. They all have lived in the rural neighborhood for 30 years.

"They're not fancy people, just good people, religious," Fuller said. Neighbors said the couple would be missed.

"They were great people," said Noah Buehman, who lives with his parents across the street from the Yankovics.

"They were really nice. They were always looking out for us. If they saw our dog outside, they wouldn't call the pound," Noah said.

He recalled meeting Weird Al.

Noah's father, John Buehman, said Al Yankovic put his parents in his productions, sending a limousine to take them to the set. To them, he was always Alfred, never Weird Al, he said.

"It was obvious where Alfred got his sense of humor, from his dad," John Buehman said. "He was very proud of his son."

Every day around 6 a.m., Nick Yankovic would set off on his daily walk. He became interested in a construction project up the road, the Buehmans said, and the workers gave him his own yellow construction vest.

"Nick would get up and say, 'What a beautiful day. It's great to be alive,' " John Buehman said.

"And I'd always say, 'Nick, you're going to be alive for a long time.' "

Al Yankovic was born in Lynwood and grew up in Los Angeles. A high school valedictorian, he earned a degree in architecture at Cal Poly San Luis Obispo. It was there that the singing accordionist quietly launched his musical career in 1979 with "My Bologna," a musical parody of the hit song "My Sharona" by The Knack.

His subsequent hits included his satirical version of Michael Jackson's "Beat It," which he retooled as a food-happy ditty called "Eat It," and Madonna's "Like a Virgin," which in his hands became "Like a Surgeon."

Weird Al has won three Grammy Awards, the most recent in February for "Poodle Hat," Best Comedy Album.


Staff writers Elizabeth Fitzsimons and Shannon Tangonan and music critic George Varga contributed to this report.

ALSO:

 http://www.weirdal.com/home.htm

On April 9, my mom and dad, Nick and Mary Yankovic, passed away in their home in Fallbrook, California. It was the result of a terrible accident ? that morning they had started a fire in the fireplace with the flue closed, and were asphyxiated by carbon monoxide poisoning.

Suzanne called me that afternoon on the bus to give me the news, so that I would hear about it before the wire services picked it up.

Needless to say, I feel pretty much the way you would expect me to feel ? shocked and devastated beyond words. I loved my parents so much, and this all still seems like a horrible nightmare that I can?t wake up from.

I want to thank my family, friends and fans for the incredible outpouring of love and support that they?ve shown me. It?s wonderful to know that there are so many people around the world who truly loved my parents, and also nice to know that I am not alone in my grief.

I take some small measure of comfort in knowing that they died peacefully, and that they never had to suffer through the pain and loneliness of living without each other. I'm also grateful that they both lived long enough to see me happily married to Suzanne, and particularly happy that they got to meet our beautiful baby daughter Nina. She filled their lives with so much joy this last year. Nina may be too young to remember playing with her grandparents when she gets older, but don?t worry, we?ll have some great videotape to show her.

Many people have wondered what?s going to happen with the tour. I briefly considered canceling some shows, but I ultimately decided that it would be better for me personally to continue working. Plus, I?ve heard from so many people over the years that my music has cheered them up in times of tragedy? well, I thought maybe my music would help me too.

So far, it has. Going up on stage in front of thousands of supportive fans is a cathartic and somewhat therapeutic experience for me right now. I don?t know if I can say that the concerts really take my mind off of the tragedy, but at least they give me a break from sobbing all the time.

Anyway, I have decided not to cancel any shows ? the tour will continue as planned. However, I have decided to put a moratorium on all interviews and meet-and-greets for the time being ? I just feel like I need some time alone right now.

The funeral will be a very small, intimate service with only the immediate family attending, so please, I ask that you respect our privacy. Just knowing that your thoughts are with us at this time is more than enough, but if you care to contribute anything, in lieu of flowers, Suzanne and I suggest a donation to the Natural Resources Defense Council ( click here ) in my parents? name.

One thing I would like to ask everybody to do, though? please, go out and get carbon monoxide detectors for yourself and your loved ones. If my parents had had one in their home, there?s a very good chance that they would still be with us today.

In fairness to the memory of my mother, I should point out some errors that appeared in the press. Although she was starting to have a problem with short-term memory loss (she was taking medication for it), my mother was never diagnosed with Alzheimer?s.

As long as I?m pointing out errors that the press has made, it was my Aunt Dot who found my parents when she was bringing them lunch that day, as she routinely did (and not a group of relatives concerned that they ?hadn?t heard from them in a while? ? the family was close and caring and saw each other several times a day). Also, my aunts and uncles all live in separate houses (not together, as some articles implied), and for what it?s worth, I am not represented by the William Morris Agency either.

I don?t know how much else I can say about my parents that I haven?t already said in interviews over the years. Although I always found it a little uncomfortable, my dad talked a lot about death. He mentioned a few times that he was planning to go on a diet so that his ?casket would be easier to carry.? I guess that?s where I got my sick sense of humor from. And he was always talking about how much he was looking forward to seeing his old army buddies again (in the next life). I sure hope they?re having a great reunion right now.

As unthinkable as this tragedy is to me, I just know that my mom and dad were very much at peace with the world and with their lives. And I guess I can take a small amount of comfort in that too.

Thank you all again for your overwhelming kindness and support. It means more to me than you can ever know.

Love,
Al
   

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Re: Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« Reply #7 on: April 16, 2004, 08:05:51 pm »
Thanks for posting that, I hadn't heard about it.  As much as it is sad, it is also good to know ...

They lived a long life.

They died painlessly (based on what I know of CO poisoning).

They died with each other, together, happy, at home, and never lonely.


When the time comes, I hope I am as fortunate.

Towelie

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Re: Some sad news. Poor Weird Al!
« Reply #8 on: April 18, 2004, 07:20:36 pm »
Quote:

Thanks for posting that, I hadn't heard about it.  As much as it is sad, it is also good to know ...

They lived a long life.

They died painlessly (based on what I know of CO poisoning).

They died with each other, together, happy, at home, and never lonely.


When the time comes, I hope I am as fortunate.  




  Nice way of putting it. My wife and I would rather go together (assuming we're old and child(ren) grown up and out of house, and stable enough to handle it.