Topic: Horrible Family Issues...

[Sirgod]

Bump and a prayer.

Stephen

[TheShadow]

 Geez, I am sorry to hear that Wul. My prayers are with you and your family. Its bad enough to lose a family member, but when its a child. Words are inadequate. I am truly sorry to hear about your nephew. This is...I cant think of a word to really describe it.      

[Wulgaru]

Hey Guys,

I'm not entirely sure why I'm posting this, I think I'm mostly using this as an outlet at the moment.  I generally don't post on the forum much anymore, as I have little time due to school.  I do however read the forum regularly, and I still consider all of you as friends.

Many of you may remember that in July I became an uncle twice over.  At Christmas I finally got to meet my little nephews, and they were absolutely fantastic, as I took immediatly to little Thomas and Joshua.  Thomas was much smaller than his brother, as he seemed to have taken on all of the health problems that normally plague twins.

Well, this past week we found out how sick the little man actually was.  He was admitted to a hospital over the weekend, suffering severe heart failure, and on the Sunday he was diagnosed with pulmonary hypertension.  The doctors said there were two options...surgery to fix his heart, or a heart transplant.  After meeting on Monday, the specialists determined that Thomas's condition was far to advanced and there was nothing they could do for him.  The doctors have given him weeks or months before he passes away.

Our family is devastated by the news.  The thought of losing our little man is horrible, especially considering he is only eight months old.  I just needed a place to vent out folks, as I'm not sure how to properly deal with this.

[762]

Oh man that sucks.

I feel for ya Wulgaru. I have twin nephews as well and I can't imagine what it would be like if one of those guys was seriously ill.

Hope for a miracle.

[Sirgod]

OMG, ken, I'm stunned. Please post all you want here we all love you anyway. For what It's worth, I'll put the prayers on Overdrive for you and your family.

Please If there's anything I can do, Let me know.

Give me a call If you need to talk Bro.

Stephen

[SL-Punisher]

One struggles to find reason in senseless tragedy, and why bad things happen to good people. I have struggled with this issue and I have only come up with one conclusion that makes any sense.

The time we have with each other is precious no matter how much we are granted. Be it 8 decades or only 8 months ... and while we would mourn our loss we would also celebrate how the people we love have enriched our lives; even if only for a little while. In the end we'll all be reuinited with the ones that we love and the wearyness of this world will fall away.

Remember the joy that someone brings, because in that joy exists the world entire.  

[Scott Allen Abfalter]

We are glad you posted here because we are a community and we care about members of our community; never hesitate to post here when you need to talk.

That is a devastating story.  I have a 20 month old boy of my own and if I received news like that I would not be able to walk around and function.  I felt the hair get cold on the back of my neck when I read your post.  

I hope that 2nd opinions are being pursued.  It can't hurt to try even a procedure with very little chance of success, but in this fellows case perhaps there exists no adaquate procedure.  

Be strong for your family.  As bad as you hurt, the parents are hurt much worse.  They will need love and support.  They even might need someone to vent anger at --if that is the case try and be stoic and let them vent at you.  Anything you can do to help them, while the little guy is still with them and afterwards, too.  

Don't tell the parents you know how they feel --you can't know.  Don't tell them "He'll be in a better place" or any of the other platitudes that people tend to use when comforting those in grief.  The best thing you can do is to be there for them when they want to talk, to be gently supportive, to grieve with them, and try not to burden them with your own grief (it's OK to admit it, but don't make them feel inadvertantly guilty for your own feelings, people do that sometimes whether it makes sense or not).  

Be strong.  Be gentle.  Be understanding.  
Don't tell them how to feel, or what to do.  Just be an emotional anchor for them.



 

[AlienLXIX]

What Scott said is spot on and there isn't much more I could add to that other than we are all thinking about you and your family and we all hopeing for the best.  We are here for you anytime!  

Aloha
Amy

[Corbomite]

Oh my. I knew I shouldn't have opened this thread. That is just horrible. I don't know what to say except that I am sorry this terrible thing had to happen to you and your family.

[Toasty0]

I am deeply saddened by your family's burden. I hope that no matter how dark the outcome his presence amongst you during this short time has brought some light of joy to him and to all of yours.

Best,
Jerry  

[GE-Raven]

I am so sorry to hear this Wulgaru.  I too send my thoughts and prayers your way.  I wish I had something more profound to say... but I don't

God Bless you and your family.

GE-Raven
 

[Sirgod]

Bump and a prayer.

Stephen

[TheShadow]

 Geez, I am sorry to hear that Wul. My prayers are with you and your family. Its bad enough to lose a family member, but when its a child. Words are inadequate. I am truly sorry to hear about your nephew. This is...I cant think of a word to really describe it.