Topic: Ok Great, Now what. (Read 20452 times)

Confused?? · « **Reply #20 on:** November 27, 2003, 05:03:06 pm »

I got my girlfriend into the same situation when I was 17, she was 17 too. I know that she was terrified, but it was not because of what would be said or the anger etc. It was the look of disappointment on the faces of the people she loved and who loved her in return. Unfortunately she lost it and the relationship ended. Even now I wish it had gone differently, I could never had hoped to provide for the child and neither of our families could have offered any solid help.

From what you have said here I think it's fair to say the child will have a good life, with an uncle who will spoil it when he can. If you have dissapointment in your sister then I think that will change to pride when you see the child for the first time.
Also you should give yourself a pat on the back for being able to vent here and still support your sister.
She is a very lucky girl to have someone like you in her life, and her child will have a good role model as well.

I hope it all works out well.

Stormbringer · « **Reply #21 on:** November 27, 2003, 05:20:23 pm »

I hesitated to reply because upon my visit, i put her looks (slight wieght gain, wearing sweats and so on) together with her ilness and made the intuitive leap that she was pregnant. I almost mentioned it several times while there and stopped because I did not know how to bring it up tactfully with the exact situation being unknown. Upon reading your post, I was mortified at not having the social grace to have spoken constructively about it then. I'm not certain it would have been helpful (probably not), but whether from illogically connecting "facts" or whatever I intuited her situation back during that visit and did not bring it up. Now I do not know what would have transpired if I had, but I am upset by the currently revealed situation because of my former intuition about it.

vsfedwards · « **Reply #22 on:** November 27, 2003, 05:38:43 pm »

Well, dont worry about it Storm, lets not dwell on the past, just concentrate on the here and now eh?

Steve if I lived closer Id support you anyway possible....but I dont, so I cant and im sorry.

Sirgod · « **Reply #23 on:** November 28, 2003, 08:07:00 am »

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I hesitated to reply because upon my visit, i put her looks (slight wieght gain, wearing sweats and so on) together with her ilness and made the intuitive leap that she was pregnant. I almost mentioned it several times while there and stopped because I did not know how to bring it up tactfully with the exact situation being unknown. Upon reading your post, I was mortified at not having the social grace to have spoken constructively about it then. I'm not certain it would have been helpful (probably not), but whether from illogically connecting "facts" or whatever I intuited her situation back during that visit and did not bring it up. Now I do not know what would have transpired if I had, but I am upset by the currently revealed situation because of my former intuition about it.

I think It was in the back of our families minds also, But with her adamantly denying It, and her having only been under my care for the last 6 months or so, I knew She couldn't have been pregnant from under my watch. so It must have happened the month Prior to her coming to live with us out in Guthris, and she now confirms this. Hehe, we where talking about you yesterday, I had even mentioned, that that explains why she got sick when you where here.

at that time also, we where concerned, and that's when we took her into the doctors, resulting in the Kidney infection she had. A very bad infection actually. anyway, Last week she went in for a follow up, and the doctor ordered the test's. And walla, wendsday she comes home with the news.

On a lighter note, I don't know which is more nerve Wracking right now. Her pregnancy, or my wife constantly talking about having a newborne in the house, and all that we get to buy for him.

Oh and Jerry, Don't ever worry in the future, about addressing something like that to me. There's been plenty of times that I can't see the forest for all the trees.

Stephen

vsfedwards · « **Reply #25 on:** November 28, 2003, 08:30:04 am »

Ocourse youd be welcome to plump me up

FOOD!!

KOTH-Steel Claw · « **Reply #26 on:** November 28, 2003, 08:36:48 am »

Nothing wrong with hand me downs. I wore them. Look at how good I turned out. Er, uh, scratch my last.

Seriously though, there is nothing wrong with hand me downs. Children outgrow their clothes on a regualr basis and much of it is not worn out, still good for another kid or two. It also cuts down on waste.

Sirgod · « **Reply #27 on:** November 28, 2003, 08:37:14 am »

Man you'ld probably gain 5-10 lbs the first month when you manage to come over to visit Bro.

stephen

vsfedwards · « **Reply #28 on:** November 28, 2003, 08:40:23 am »

And I wouldnt be suprised if the alcohol level in my blood rised dramatically

grimbeard · « **Reply #29 on:** November 28, 2003, 09:47:01 am »

Sometimes in life Steve, you happen to cross paths with someone you really admire. For whatever strength is evident, unless there are several, you realize, Wow, I can make a difference. My situation allows me to be able to help others, and since I choose to help those on this forum who I know need the help, sirgod in particular, I really feel a good deep down kind of happiness. I dont have all the responsibilites that others here might. So I like to help in whatever way I can. No kids, no wife, no ex's and no high dollar living kind of lend to a freedom of the green so to speak. Good people are hard to find these days, but when I do find them, I want to hang out with them as much as I can.

Sirgod · « **Reply #31 on:** November 30, 2003, 07:31:27 pm »

Thanks reverand, I appriciate that very much man. I hope we can actually get together pretty soon though.

Stephen

thefish · « **Reply #32 on:** November 30, 2003, 07:46:13 pm »

it is sad when such a young girl will have to give up her younger years because of a baby. Its equally as sad that the father is having no role in the upkeep of the baby who, will probablly want answers to these questions when they are older.
Wish you the best of luck sirgod.

J'inn · « **Reply #33 on:** November 30, 2003, 09:00:13 pm »

I feel a Taldren Baby Shower Event coming on. Perhaps someone with more time than I should set it up. I got lots of stuff I could send. You should see my "Freshly Stolen From a Baby" candy collection for starters.

Seriously though, it could be cool to do this.

vsfedwards · « **Reply #35 on:** December 01, 2003, 08:12:11 am »

Tellytubbies it is! Well put it this way Steve, its either that or Barney! mwahhaha.

Sirgod · « **Reply #36 on:** November 26, 2003, 02:05:34 pm »

My sister just returned from having what I was told where X-rays done because of her destinded (sp) belly. Having sworn up and down to me, she was not pregnant, she comes back with ultra-sound pictures of the Baby she will deliver on Feb. 10th.

Ok right now I'm severly dissapointed in her, But I don't feel angry. she is 17 (sept. 26th is her B-day) and I've only had her living with me for about the last 5-6 months. I'm just trying to figure out How I can Budget for a newborne, while still tackling Denises medical Problems/expenses.

Let alone Buying the Furniture, Clothes, etc. and feeling like I didn't do enough for her, teach her enough to avoid situations like this.

On top of It all, I think the lying hurts the most. I may not be the most agreeable person in my Family, But I always want to know the truth.

Stephen

Taldren_Erin · « **Reply #37 on:** November 26, 2003, 02:18:51 pm »

Sorry to hear that, Stephen. =( Really. This has happened a couple of times in my family. The kids are beautiful and intelligent and wonderful but it's a strain, and frustrating, and disappointing when it happens this way.

Dallas · « **Reply #38 on:** November 26, 2003, 02:32:12 pm »

Jeez, when it rains it pours. I wish she had said something to you sooner cause
when I cleaned out the garage I gave away all of our baby stuff to charity. I would
of rather had given it to you if I had known.

Sirgod · « **Reply #39 on:** November 26, 2003, 03:28:29 pm »

Thanks Erin and Dallas, Yep It is a strain. Of course Uncle Steve will love the Baby, and my sister, But it's just so sudden.

at this point in time, I'm not ashamed to ask for handme downs.

Hehe, the Baby will be loved, But will be a handme down Baby.

Stephen

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